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Baby showers; a neutral topic

Dear Velvet, My friends and I are hosting a baby shower for another friend of ours.  Its pot luck so we’re all supposed to bring something, in addition to a gift for her baby.  What should I make? Sweet Dreams Dear Sweet Dreams, Baby showers are about as much fun to attend as labor.  Gear up […]

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How to stay sane when home for the holidays

Dear Velvet, My mom’s great, but right now she’s driving me crazy.  She wants me to do things around the house like add items to the grocery list if I finish something, and fill up the car with gas when I go out with my friends to shop for the holidays. Plus, she wants me […]

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Best pickup lines of all time

Dear Velvet, I’m trying to meet guys and I’m at a total loss.   Where are the guys who are interested in a future together?  The whole shebang, not just some guy looking to pass the time because he’s too lazy to make his own breakfast.  What a turn off. I want a guy who […]


Better than Grandma’s Chocolate Chip Cookies

Grandma deserves your respect.  Don’t tell anyone your cookies are better.  That will be our secret. 3/4 cup sugar 3/4 cup brown sugar 2 Tablespoons molasses 1 cup oil 2 eggs 2 teaspoons vanilla 3 cups flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon salt 10 oz. chocolate chips Preheat the oven to 375 degrees.  Cream the sugars, molasses, […]


Your therapist and You: A guide to improving relationships

Dear Velvet, I just got into a fight with my therapist.  Things were O.K. and then, bam, she expected me to change.  The problem is I really like going to her.  She’s a good listener.  She just doesn’t understand how hard things are for me.  Do you think I should try to make up with […]

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Are you the Good Wife?

Dear Velvet, I’m normally not the type to write to someone I don’t know to complain about my husband, but this week he came down with the flu and it’s like the whole world is coming to an end.  When I get sick, its business as usual.  I can’t afford the luxury of staying in […]